I heard a snippet of audio on Air1 the other day (station in question is obviously not my choice), but it hit the nail right on the head in respect to how to treat a guy and get a little glimpse into his psyche. Of course this was 3 days ago, so I'm only paraphrasing, but I do remember the general message.
1) Your Man Needs to be Your Hero - You need to show your man that he is your hero and that you look to him for protection and as a leader. If you don't ever show your significant other that he doesn't play that role for you, don't expect him to get there on his own. Guys can get there when they're single and on their own, but when he has a wife and a family, he needs to know and needs you to show him that you need him there.
2) Have a Positive Attitude - When dealing with the day-to-day stresses of work, kids, school, bills, finances, relationship, etc. etc. you have to be able to have a positive attitude and outlook on life. This is one that goes both ways. When faced with stress and adversity, you HAVE to stay positive. Things happen to people, it's life, and if you have your significant other by your side staying positive right along with you, you will get through.
3) Do Not Reluctantly Please Your Husband - This goes along with number 2, kind of. Nothing will make your husband resent you more than if you reluctantly please him whether it be emotionally, intimately, or sexually. You can't be a selfish person and this is a 2 way street (as are most things supposed to be in a marriage). Even when you really don't want to or really don't feel like it, it's necessary to make your spouse feel loved and needed.
The speaker said, and again said exactly what I was thinking by the end of hearing this, that by doing these simple things, you'll see great strides not only in your husband's happiness and willingness to please you but also in the satisfaction you should get out of making your husband happy and how good that makes you feel.... And if these needs aren't met, even the most kind-hearted, understanding husband will seek elsewhere for what is missing.
I'm sure there was a lot more than was said, but it was all in the same context and basically more of the same I've already gone over. Also, it was just a small part in a series of talks on the subject. I believe every couple should be offered, or should take a course so each person knows what they're signing up for and where their spouses shortcomings might be.
The speaker said, and again said exactly what I was thinking by the end of hearing this, that by doing these simple things, you'll see great strides not only in your husband's happiness and willingness to please you but also in the satisfaction you should get out of making your husband happy and how good that makes you feel.... And if these needs aren't met, even the most kind-hearted, understanding husband will seek elsewhere for what is missing.
I'm sure there was a lot more than was said, but it was all in the same context and basically more of the same I've already gone over. Also, it was just a small part in a series of talks on the subject. I believe every couple should be offered, or should take a course so each person knows what they're signing up for and where their spouses shortcomings might be.
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