The family I come from has/had no "family traditions". I can't say why or how that never came to be, but I can say I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything... I don't feel slighted or like my family is disconnected from one another. I realize the point of family traditions is to get everyone together and feel a closeness and a bond with one another, but what happens when a tradition is too forced and it becomes more of a burden than it does fun and games? This creates arguments and breeds resentment and animosity towards the people we love. People get their feelings hurt and take it personally when their tradition isn't priority for everyone involved.
This is why you can't just 'make up' family traditions. Something you do as a family has to become tradition and just because an activity becomes tradition, doesn't mean you have to do it every year or every month or every holiday or special occasion. Keep it simple and keep it optional or don't keep it at all. Don't take the fun out of being in a close-knit family.
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